Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby!
Recently I read an essay about motherhood and sex, or rather, the complete (apparent) lack of sex after kids. Michelle and I have also discussed this situation when we?ve realised while talking to our girlfriends/acquaintances that there are a lot of couples who do not seem to be having sex on any sort of regular basis.
While I am not going to go into the intimate details of my own sex life, I will say this ? I?m getting some on a regular basis. I?m curious, why aren?t couples having sex? I know couples who are clearly very much in love, who have an obvious respect for each other that is apparent when they speak of their partner, but they aren?t having sex. Why? Is there a health reason? If you?re not having sex with your partner than how does that relationship differ than any other relationship you have with someone of the opposite sex? Isn?t the sex sort of what sets it apart? Does the mere fact that I even think that mean my own relationship is doomed to fail at some point?!
Obviously right after a baby is born the sex basically comes to a standstill, but after a few months what?s the hold up? Generally babes start sleeping through the night at 6 months, so you would assume that by 6 months (generally) everyone is well-rested. Is it just an age thing?
I don?t expect you to tell me the intimate details of your relationships, which is of course sacred, but I am genuinely curious what the reasons could be and thought hey! Let?s ask the internet! Maybe you all could either shed a light on the matter, or even just hypothesize with me.
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Reading this has made me wanna go get some…I will let you know how it goes. lol
Not too many details! I have delicate ears…
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I think I scared people off
I was seriously curious! I had always thought all that talk about no-sex was just a myth. Now I’m starting to think it isn’t considering there is article after article about it…
I just read an article in a Canadian Parenting magazine on how to spice up your sex life….kinda disturbing…
Now I’m going to see if I can find this article…
Whatever happened to a walk and dinner? I’m so old…
Here are some of my thoughts, which I would totally share in my own blog if not for the fact that it would scandalize the family members who read there.
For me personally, sex is a giving thing. I can mostly take it or leave it. When I get it, it’s really awesome, but I have pretty much *never* gotten to the point where I’ve been like, Damn, if I don’t get me some sex RIGHT NOW I’m gonna EXPLODE! Because of that, sex is generally on the bottom of my priority list. I have to be “full” myself – meaning, every single one of my own “me time” needs are completely taken care of – before I would feel genuinely desirous of sex. Guess what? That NEVER happens, because I am so busy taking care of Gwen and work and the house and schoolwork and my volunteer stuff and every other bloody thing, that me-time slips down the page, and sex pretty much falls off the bottom. I do it, but it’s pretty much all for him – not that I don’t enjoy it …
Another thing is, for us at least, those first couple of months there are a million reasons not to have sex (as you point out). And then as those reasons disappear one by one, you realize that you’ve just totally gotten out of the habit of having sex.
My dime’s worth.