Comments on: Good Mother – Bad Mother

By: Candi

Candi — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 17:30:12 +0000

The book sounds interesting, I may have to pick it up. I’m currently reading one called “When you and your mother can’t be friends”, because I’m trying to resolve the shock, hurt, and well–rage– I feel towards her for abandoning me. And for forcing me into trying to resolve this THIS way instead of having a conversation. You wanna talk about bad mothers…. :: sigh :: I will eventually spin it so I can be thankful to her for teaching me what NOT to be as a mother, just as I am somewhat thankful to my psycho ex for showing me what I DIDN’T want in a relationship. I’m not there yet, though.
Anyway, I think I’m one of the peeps who told you you’re an awesome mother for making this or that craft, so it’s important to note the reasoning behind it. I don’t think you’re a good mom because you DO those things; I think you’re a good mom because you care about your kids enough to find ways to keep them entertained, let them learn and help in a hands on way, let them explore and create and imagine, and provide for your family all while helping the environment.
It’s the thought behind it that matters. That’s what I admire. Just so you know.

By: Suzy

Suzy — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 22:20:30 +0000

Time to delete the spam…
I have to say, northern California is full of Judgey McJudgerson mothers. The ones who force their kids through the largely discredited Baby Einstein BS, the ones who compete to get into the best preschools in utero, the ones who let the help raise their kids.
For what it’s worth, as a non-mother, and one who’s seen plenty of the above, and one who had a mother who shouldn’t have been: you’re doing great. Your kids are loved, feel joy, have shared experiences with you & Steve that are deep within them. Don’t worry about anything except overdoing the awesomeness.

By: Mom

Mom — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 09:07:41 +0000

I am personally amazed that I have two amazing daughers that have grown into terrific and caring women. Especially considering the “mothering” they got!! I am actually not really sure that you got any. I am blessed to be able to become an “Good Grandma” though!

By: Shell

Shell — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 15:36:00 +0000

What does it really mean to be the perfect mother anyway? The perfect mother is always right, always knows what to say, always looks good, is always there for her husband, always puts other’s needs ahead of hers, always has supper ready to go at 5:30…. That person isn’t even human – they are Robot. I Mother Robot.
When you teach through living and showing that everyone has flaws, you teach patience, resilience and problem solving. I, for one, would like to fire the SUPER MOM, and pull out the flawed one any day. Even though I am totally screwed up by our freakin parent’s generation of parenting. HAHA Rant, done. You are amazing Amber, don’t forget it.

By: Laura

Laura — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 21:16:10 +0000

I think you are a great mother, Amber, but this post has forced me to examine my reasons why. Here’s one: I think you are a great mother because you care more about what’s right for your family and what kind of people you want your children to become, than about whatever trend is defining “good” versus “bad” parenting.

By: fearthainn

fearthainn — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 08:35:26 +0000

I don’t think anyone who has ever met you could doubt that you are a good mother, because you are the best person I know. ♥

By: michelle

michelle — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 23:16:22 +0000

*sniff sniff* I will tell you that you are a good mother whenever you need to hear it because we all need to be reminded sometimes.

By: Sole

Sole — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 10:01:44 +0000

I heart you!